Coaching + Helping People Grow
Listen Like a Fish
Today, I’m celebrating Big Fish Day. It’s not exactly celebrating one year without alcohol, but rather the one year anniversary of realizing alcohol was hurting me. January 1st, 2023, I started a dry January. I planned to clear my head from all the whiskey nog and celebratory rum cocktails that were part of my life…
Read MoreDealing with Grief
Holiday Nostalgia: Joy & Grief We celebrate most holidays to the tune of two “Eves” around my house. Birthday Eve Eve, New Year’s Eve Eve, and this week — Christmas Eve Eve. It’s like a tiny personal holiday to get some extra celebration in before the official day. But today’s eve-squared is salted with nostalgia…
Read MoreSelf-Dismissive Labeling (Growth Traps)
Sneaky Growth Traps This month I want to cover some of the growth traps that munch us. They’re habits, behaviors, and mindsets that sneak into our lives, and limit or prevent growth. They do this while giving us a false sense of permission, safety, stability, or truth. They’re tricky like that. One Growth Trap that…
Read MoreActive Constructive Responding
I didn’t invent most of the communication techniques I have become “known” to my clients for helping them learn. ButResearch I’ve come to believe it’s a colossal waste of time to try to define things as “my process” or “my techniques.” In any thinking partnership, ownership of ideas is fuzzy at best, counterproductive at worst.…
Read MoreSharing Needles
Sharing Needles Today I’m laid back in a lazy boy, sharing needles with half a dozen other humans at my local community acupuncture clinic. Each of us in our butt palaces, drawn up around a circle, with a doctor of Chinese medicine floating counter clockwise to put needles into us. I will look like…
Read MoreHow to Reduce Summer Squabbles
It Happened Right In Front of Me… I was sitting at the clubhouse pool enjoying my book, when a family with three young children descended with bags, floats, and a cooler full of treats. Mom lathered the kids in sunblock, Dad blew up the floats and the beach ball, and they all jumped in. Everything…
Read MoreLiving Gamefully
Living Gamefully One of my best allies lately in my own personal growth journey has been Dr. Jane McGonigal. I was 34 when I suddenly acquired a sensory disorder. Something changed in my brain, and I have battled crippling auditory issues for what seems like no reason. In the 18 months since, I’ve had my…
Read MoreHard to Help
I’ve been hard to help lately. Has that ever happened to you? You don’t mean to be a martyr and hog all the hard stuff. It’s not that you’re a perfectionist (maybe), or that you have energy to spare (who does). Maybe it starts because you’re a helper. You’re not against receiving help so much…
Read MoreWhy I’m Not an Amazon Affiliate Anymore
Why I’m Not an Amazon Affiliate Anymore Lots of coaches and consultants support their revenue model by getting a tiny percentage of the sales they refer over to Amazon. In fact there was a time when we did it too. But then it felt weird. If you know me as a friend,…
Read MoreFinding Your Purpose for the Year
Figuring Out Your Purpose for the Year One of my favorite questions to ask friends this time of year is “what do you think next year is for?” To be fair, it’s a tough question to answer, rude of me to ask it. But just because it can feel like an impossible question to…
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